It’s strange how one simple but profound scene from a television show can transform you into a weeping mess.

I’ve been home most of the time over the last 15 days since my wrist has been in a splint due to a freak accident in an elevator. And so my days have been filled with reading, ruminating, studying, and watching shows my son recommends.

“Better Things” is the show that I have been bingeing on over the past week or so. The story revolves around the life of Sam Fox (played by the brilliant and funny Pamela Alfonso) a single mother and working actor with no filter trying to raise her three daughters — Max, Frankie, and Duke — in Los Angeles. She also looks out for her mother, Phil, an English expatriate with questionable faculties who lives across the street.

It was the ending of season three (it has five seasons) that made me bawl like a baby. Sam, was marking her 50th birthday quietly and out of the shadows pops her late father, whom she had lost at age 16, challenging her with “Make sure you do good with the time I didn’t get!” Sam’s dad had died suddenly at the age of 49.

That ending was too close to home. Thus, the tears.

My father had died at the ripe old of 49 from his very first heart attack. I was 16, like Sam was. 50 was my magic bullet.

Now, I am all of 57 years old. It’s been 41 years since my dad died but there will always be triggers. I have learned through the years that when sorrow comes, I must let it flow, just as I did that afternoon, knowing that it will pass.

Author and grief therapist, Pauline Boss writes : “What I find is that the more we try to control the pain of loss, clear of ambiguous, the more it dominates us. It is better to flow with the sorrow when it comes, have a good cry, and afterward, carry on again as best you can. No pressure. Emotional ups and downs are natural. If we allow them to be felt, the downs become farther and farther apart over time, easing but never totally done.”

It had been a while since I had thought about my dad. The intensity of my emotions surprised me for a moment. But then just as quickly as it came upon me, it was gone.

Closure is a myth in so many ways because really, parting is only but temporary, and as that famous quote from WandaVision says, “What is grief, if not love persevering.”

Thank you, “Better Things” for giving me that moment of remembering, and of love persevering.

Pamela Adlon as Sam Fox on “Better Things” available on Hulu

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